Tomorrow is Desperation Day.

I am guessing I will not be able to post this in time for Valentine's day, so I am going to post it earlier.

This post is about how I suck at girls.

A friend noted that I have this extraordinary talent. I can make girls "fall" for me for an instant but when things get serious they leave me hanging and broken. It is not something that I should be proud of. It is an insult for me. But then that happens, if not most, all of the times.

i kinda liked this girl.

I never had a girlfriend for college. Four years of chasing some girls. I never had my luck. I had near shots but then I either end up in the friendship lagoon or the friendzone or even worst the bitterzone. I do not actually care about being branded as the guy who never had a girlfriend in college or Sakuragi. The only thing that bothers me is why not me? 

 this one turned out to be a good friend.  

I actually have thought of it all. All the girls I have courted, I tried to look at my short comings. I tried to look for what was my mistake. I tried to look for what was wrong. And I guess I did a lot of wrong things that contributed for my failure.

So for readers, this is a list of some things you might be doing wrong.

she is an artist.

First on the list, you are not superman. Most girls look for the Clark Kent of their life. They act as the damsel in distress and you are the superman that will save their life. Often we think that saving her life will eventually lead to a good, happilly ever-after love story. This we got wrong.

Saving a person, in this case, a girls misery is not equivalent to being with her. It is more of just saving her from misery and not you together fighting the misery. Note that girls are more impressed with the person that stands beside her and fights stuff than those that save her away from it.

 sunshine. oh my sunshine.

Second, do not lose your maturity. I am nineteen years of hard-core experience. If I was a video game characther I would be in level 70. But guys lose maturity with girls. That level 70 characther turns into a weak noob that is easily murdered. 

Girls are often immature. They think childishly. Thinking that it is a cute way to voice out what they have in mind. They are sentimental over nothing. And guys fall for it like a rocket falling because of gravity. When she starts to argue about things not be argued upon we stumble and start arguing back. Then conflict. When she does not text you for ten minutes, you call her, then argue. Then conflict.

The conflict arises due to immaturity. Act mature. It might hurt you a bit. But you should put a little pride on your self even though relationships require you to swallow it. 

friends. just friends.

Number three is timing. Based on experience, I end up in a romantic bond with a girl that either is a) just broke up with her boyfriend or b) someone who never had a boyfriend ever. And trust me you would not like that.

On the first scenario, the girl just broke-up with the boyfriend, so you expect her to move-on immediately and date you? This is the common mistakes of some guys, including me. We have the superman-complex of saving a girl then we also have "I-will-be-here-for-you" attitude. Not unless you are this gay bestfriend who is ready to hear her rants about his ex, you should not be there for her. Let her forget the guy first. You are not a rebound. And most of all, do not take advantage of the situation.

The second scenario is the awkward scenario. I had a girlfriend back in high school. I was her first and so was she for me. It was not that awkward since we were growing together. But I never found maturity in that relationship that I could apply for the future. Which leads me to the problem with NBSBs, I do not want them to have the worst first boyfriend they could possibly have. 

i love holding her hands.

Effort is not always appreciated but is needed. That is the fourth thing to consider. Some guys give way too much effort to the point that they are giving their everything that forget their own self. This is wrong. Also, giving no effort at all is a big mistake.

We must understand that all effort is not appreciated. It is like attending a class, yes your daily attendance may not noticed but then it is needed for you to understand the lesson. In the same manner, going to a Monday and Wenesday class on a Saturday is stupid. Also, your absence will be clearly noticed. Get the logic? 

Effort should be shown. Once I showed no effort to a girl then I greeted hello to goodbye. Effort should be in moderation. I gave way too much effort to another that goodbye welcomed me with confetti. They say the key to a girls heart is effort. I say it is moderate effort with some add-ons that catches a girl.

 she sings. a lot.

Last is be consistent. This is the hard part. You always want to start with a boom when you meet a girl. It is for first impression. They say that first impression lasts. What I see is that that impression only last when we make it last.

You introduce yourself as a good boy from the western shores of Zamboanga City, stay with that till the end. If you have introduced yourself in another persona, away from the real you, you definitely have a problem.

They say that you should act natural. This is true. Be yourself. If she would not like you the way you are, take the hint, she is not for you. If she will like you, most of the times she will, just continue on what you are doing. Remember that if it comes out naturally the three worded phrase from her will come out easily.

I listed things that you should consider.Yes, I do consider those things too. But you can never be sure of what will happen next. I mean, girls are girls. Even the dictionary explains their definition in a hard language. So, think of it this way, girls are mysterious creatures, scary mysterious creatures.